OTHER FOCUS:
Concentrating on others needs and problems. Analyzing
their motives and behavior. Asking questions of others.
Telling stories about what he/she did
NEGATIVE RESULTS:
Helps us avoid our own issues. Makes us observers,
not participants. Puts a safe (and lonely) distance
between ourselves and others.
RULE 1: Keep your
sharing focused on your own thoughts and feelings.
Please limit your sharing to 3-5 minutes.
RULE 2:
We are here
to support one another. We will not attempt to "fix"
one another.
GOALS: Work on self.
Share personal needs, feelings, ideas and problems.
Allow time for all those who need share.
BREAKING CONFIDENTIALITY:
Telling outsiders what was said or done in group.
Gossip disguised as a prayer request.
NEGATIVE RESULTS:
Violates trust and safety. Makes members afraid
to share risky material.
RULE 3: Anonymity
and confidentiality are basic requirements. What
is shared in the group stays in the group.
GOALS: Celebrate Recovery
is a safe place.
CROSS-TALK
Interrupting
people, asking questions, having a dialogue with one other
member of the group.
NEGATIVE RESULTS:
Members fear that they won't be able to finish sharing,
that their ideas are not valued, or that they won't get
a chance to speak.
RULE 4: There will
be no cross-talk please. Cross-talk is when two
individuals engage in a dialogue, excluding all others.
Each person is free to express feelings without
interruption.
RULE 5:
Offensive language has no place in a Christ-centered recovery
group.
GOALS: Listen respectfully
to what others choose to share.
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